For the last years there has been amazing developments in alternative healing. Which shouldn't surprise us, as Neptune (Healing) transits Aquarius (Innovation) while Pluto (Therapy) is in Sagittarius (holistic). One of the most intense and effective forms of healing is Origin Healing Work. It is based on the insights of family-theorist, Bert Hellinger, the founder of Family-Sculpture. Its philosophy embraces a very important aspect of natural law (Sagittarius): That every smaller unit is part of a next bigger unit, which again is only part of the next bigger unit. Simultaneously every unit contains parts of smaller units that again contain smaller parts of units. All of those units on diverse levels are interactive and interrelated. Often an individual has a problem and therapy so far states that the problem belongs to the individual therefore the treatment focuses on the individual only. Yet everything in universe is part of the next bigger unit. Thus an individual is part of a family system, and the family system is part of a country and so on. A family system includes the previous generations, i.e. grandparents, great grandparents and so on, but also former partners of the parents or grandparents, secret lovers, miscarriages, aborted babies and denied family members. Therefore individual problems, repetitive patterns in the individual's life are often related to previous generations.
If a family lives in alignment with the natural laws by embracing each other's uniqueness, talents and ways, and honors each other's natural position and function within a family system and within the circle of life itself, the individuals of that family will be happy, sane and open hearted. Yet if there happens violation to those natural dynamics (violence, abuse, or even less dramatic things as unresolved grief or secret love or forbidden love) and if those violations will not be resolved or healed by family members that experience or create violation in the first place, later born will energetically identify/ entangle with those dynamics and relive them as an attempt to heal them. Meaning, the daughter as an example would subconsciously repeat the relationship pattern of her mother and maybe also not marry the man she really loves.
The problem with those identifications is, that the individual thinks and senses those patterns being his/her identity. The daughter wouldn't even detect an entanglement with her mother's unlived love for another man, nor wouldn't she even know about it. She only knows relationship between her mom and her dad. A relationship where the mother's heart was not engaged.
Why would the child - here the daughter - take on unresolved dynamics and entangle with them? The motivation for entangling and identifying with pain, wounds, guilt and burdens is rooted in the loving heart of the baby-child that senses like every baby/child the energetic nature of its environment/parents. It wants to help the mother to be not so sad about her unfulfilled love. The daughter simultaneously tries to become like her mom in order to be loved full heartedly by her. Yet the mother probably is unable to do so, because her heart is sad and partly closed since she didn't marry the man she loved. Meaning the mother didn't respect herself and the call of her heart, thus disrespected her own feminine, thus couldn't love the daughter (mirror of the feminine) as warm as she could have without her self-violation. The daughter in return perceives a lack of warmth and love by the mother relative to being a girl/woman, i.e. feminine. The result, the daughter will also not listen to her call of her heart, and also doesn't marry the man she loves, by that also disrespect her inner Self. The result: a partnership with a man that mirrors the closed heartedness within herself.
In Origin Healing Work that particular daughter, our client, would get to see the big picture when doing her 'constellation'. One step would be via the representative for her mom to heal her longing heart to the man she really loved, and bringing that longing to closure. Then mom would be open hearted again, thus available for the daughter. The daughter would sense the strength of the sound heart of her mom and would feel loved and seen by her mom. The daughter's heart opens for herself and her Self. Now she has the strength to listen to her heart and the strength to follow its call, that will lead to a happy relationship life: Her relationship to her Self by listening to her heart and to a partner that will mirror her own strength and love in the way he will love her. We have seen amazing changes and healings of entanglements in our Origin Healing Workshops that lead to a new lighthearted way of going through life.
Die Family Karma - Family Drama
by Ulrich Bold
